Sorry but I’ll have to downvote this, there’s something about humans that is either cultural or genetic, but we travel and live in groups and we settle with partner(s). Being alone might be OK in a tribe, but as we moved to more isolated and individualist ways of living being alone means something completely different. On top of that every song you hear is about love and every movie you watch has a love story. You go out and you see happy couples around you, conversations most often revolve around dating.
My theory is that behind every violent crime or act of terrorism there is a huge amount of frustration that built up from not having that someone.
Your choices are not limited to "being adhered to a codependent sexual partner" and "being totally disconnected from society trying to live as a Randean ubermench ascetic".
It is the belief that those are the only possibilities that makes people incels, not the lack of a chick.
Isn’t the point of incels that they want something that is majorly important in society, yet can’t get it. It’s a bit like telling poor people that they should not care about money.
They want something that they think is important in society, but isn't.
Nobody gives a damn if they have a sexual partner or not, and it is not anybody's obligation to be theirs so that they can achieve their misguided idea of personal fulfillment.
My theory is that behind every violent crime or act of terrorism there is a huge amount of frustration that built up from not having that someone.