Man this is such an ugly situation to otherwise successful and (seemingly) nice people. Almost scares you to never get married or have children. Actually not only this case, whenever I see high profile divorce cases, I get baffled at divorced couple fighting over millions of dollars, when they are already millions of dollars rich and will maintain a comfortable life for the rest of their life with their current wealth.
I guess I make the assumption that rich people are rational, or maybe they are rich because they are not (always) rational when it comes to money?
I like to think that Elon Musk is not in it for the money, and it seems like so from his actions. He seem to take money from one success story so that he can invest in his dream goals of making the world a better place. Money is just a by product of his actions.
On the other hand, reading some of his wife blog post gives me the impression that she seems like an OK person and not generally spiteful or vindictive.
There's no point in being scared to get married. Being married is awesome. Some people divorce, and some people don't. If you're that worried about the money part of it, sign a pre-nup, even if you don't have anything.
You can't control people. You can't even control your spouse. That's just how things are, and you have to let them go. You can't go on scared of doing things; anything could happen at any time, but we can't close ourselves off from it.
None of us know the personal details of their relationship. Maybe one side or the other has some good cause for this. Maybe it's mutual and there's just some dispute about the split of assets; that can happen, disputes are pretty normal, and when you have tons of money and are paying for super-high-priced lawyers, things can definitely drag out.
Don't be scared by this stuff. Just do your best and keep on living. That's all the control anyone gets in this life.
"If you're that worried about the money part of it, sign a pre-nup, even if you don't have anything."
That's exactly what Elon Musk tried. Of course, after the pre-nup you have to sign a post-nup confirming the pre-nup, and that's how this whole mess started.
You are absolutely right. I didn't word my feelings very well. I am not so much scared of the money part or the responsibility of a marriage; I am put off by the ugly nature of the divorce - fighting over money with someone with whom you have spent a good part of your life and will still have to keep some sort of relationship going after divorce because you have children together.
I would understand if one party seems to be unfairly screwing over the other person and not giving them enough money. They are both independently wealthy and have very successful career.
Anyways, I am sure I have much to learn about human relationship and marriage life. It just seems very sad and the only people who are benefitting from this ugly situation are the lawyers, who are going to milk this case for as long as they can for as much as they can.
I guess I make the assumption that rich people are rational, or maybe they are rich because they are not (always) rational when it comes to money?
I like to think that Elon Musk is not in it for the money, and it seems like so from his actions. He seem to take money from one success story so that he can invest in his dream goals of making the world a better place. Money is just a by product of his actions.
On the other hand, reading some of his wife blog post gives me the impression that she seems like an OK person and not generally spiteful or vindictive.
Utterly confused and scared of getting married.