It hardly matters now. The details of these cases and the private lives of the people involved are really none of our business, and scrutinizing them will not fix anything for anybody. Let us please mourn the loss of a person beloved by many.
I think it still matters, sadly. The whole sordid affair has taken from a language community a developer who did much good, and who is as of yet unable to return because the question of his guilt, if any, is unresolved. The end of this case, if it ever has one, might possibly see her claims validated, or it might possibly enable the return of a valued talent.
I do not assume to know which it might be, but the chance that it might be the latter makes me think that the question still matters, since as of yet, that developer is still assumed guilty without there ever having been a trial.
This does not mean that i do not have nothing but the utmost sympathy for all those hurt by her passing. I merely think it does not merit ignoring the possibly undeserved pain of another.
Even if you don't mean this comment to be insensitive, it is pretty insensitive to people mourning the permanent loss of a talented and loved person who contributed much to their communities and friends.
I know emotions are raw when something like this happens--I don't think the comment was intended to be, or is, insensitive, just part of a discussion around events in their lives.
Everybody mourns in a different way, and not everyone knows them in the same way. I don't think we can (or should) really dictate how people will treat the death of another.
