Again, I think you may be confused. The poster's argument that you're claiming to agree with is the same argument that you're taking issue with when you say:
>I agree with the sentiment here, but please don't argue that boys benefit from this by having the chance to be obedient little utilities. but please don't argue that boys benefit from this by having the chance to be obedient little utilities.
That boys benefit is precisely the argument the poster is making (your framing them as "obedient little utilities" notwithstanding).
Additionally, the usage of italics simply indicates emphasis. It's one of the most mundane aspects of written English. Nothing fancy about it, FYI.
Your use of quoting and italicised text makes you look so much more intelligent than me.
Btw, I wasn't reframing the poster's comment. That's what I was agreeing with, but I bet you couldn't see from behind all the red.