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Even so, it speaks poorly of his method (or maybe just his personality?) that it took 90 dates to actually find a good match.


Friend of mine used to run a dating site. She said that on average it took people about 6 months of solid dating, usually 50-100 dates, before they found a good match.

There are some people that get into relationships much more quickly, but oftentimes those are the same people who get out of relationships really quickly, because they didn't choose a good match to begin with. There are also outliers who find someone great when they're not really looking, but they are outliers.

Think of it this way: someone who went on 90 dates before they found a match set their bar at the 99th percentile. Someone who went on 10 dates set their bar at the 90th percentile. Someone who went on 2 set their bar at the 50th percentile. These aren't exact figures - there's luck involved too - but they illustrate the trade-off involved.


It seems quite weird to me that 100 dates are needed before founding a "good match" (I guess that means something you date more than a couple times). Seems like an incredibly inefficient (and potentially emotionally complicated) process, even will all the "magic algorithm" part.

If this is truly a numbers game, not sure if speed dating or something similar is a much better approach...




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