> Where have all the most appealing men gone? Married young, most of them—and sometimes to women whose most salient characteristic was not their beauty, or passion, or intellect, but theirdecisiveness.
I think this one quote from the article is important.
> What they understood is this: as your priorities change from romance to family, the so-called “deal breakers” change. Some guys aren’t worldly, but they’d make great dads.
2nd quote from linked article in original piece - an interesting Lori Gottlieb article entitled "Marry Him!" which I'm considering forwarding to a few of my 30-ish single and still serial-dating female friends (considering the negative repercussions).
I think Alexander Smith put the "point of love" quite well: "Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition."
You can love a friend in that sense to a point, and that may be enough for many people. Obviously romantic love is an entirely different story: irrational and perhaps less efficient than a work partner, but the sort of thing that contrasts and enhances the purely logical.
I'm beginning to see no point in love - only solid, mutually beneficial friendships
Love takes that and raises it to the googol'th power.
I mentioned earlier in this thread that I am getting divorced. My wife and I sometimes talk about the times when we were head over heels crazy about each other, but what we have now and are trying to maintain is perfectly described as "a solid, mutually beneficial friendship."
I think this one quote from the article is important.
> What they understood is this: as your priorities change from romance to family, the so-called “deal breakers” change. Some guys aren’t worldly, but they’d make great dads.
2nd quote from linked article in original piece - an interesting Lori Gottlieb article entitled "Marry Him!" which I'm considering forwarding to a few of my 30-ish single and still serial-dating female friends (considering the negative repercussions).
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry