I admire (and even envy) your ability to be transparent, although it has left me questioning the purpose of social taboos and whether or not the custom of attempting to keep knowledge of things like extramarital affairs private is beneficial or not.
As 'jaquesm points out above, publicising it could be seen as a form of "public shaming". Attempting to hide it, however, leads to people in your community speaking in hushed tones behind your back, which is annoying and possibly a greater net negative in the long term. I realise that this may be more than you care to divulge, and I don't want to focus too much on your personal situation, but is there any particular reasoning or philosophy behind your unusual (I think it's fair to call it that) approach?
It cripples the rumor mill, taking away the secretive intrigue. If it's out in the open, people have less to speculate about and less to talk about.
It makes it possible for us to help other couples going through it. Dealing with this can be an incredibly lonely experience. We want to help make it less lonely for couples.
Keeping it a secret doesn't help anyone and it's only built on the social need to keep up appearances. That's useless in a world where the only people's opinions that I care about are my family's.
It would be a taboo and Scott's character could be questioned if his wife did not agree with the disclosure. That doesn't seem to be the case.
Our social system could use more people like Scott and his (reformed) wife. To me, they look like leaders in personal development and growth, let alone relationships.
As 'jaquesm points out above, publicising it could be seen as a form of "public shaming". Attempting to hide it, however, leads to people in your community speaking in hushed tones behind your back, which is annoying and possibly a greater net negative in the long term. I realise that this may be more than you care to divulge, and I don't want to focus too much on your personal situation, but is there any particular reasoning or philosophy behind your unusual (I think it's fair to call it that) approach?