My bad, I expressed myself badly. I don't hate anybody, just indifferent. I usually refer to unfamiliar people more officially anyway, so this doesn't even affect me.

But I remember widespread cancel culture over issues like this, and I can't help but feel that it helped stoke the fire of hate which other people are expressing.

Don't you think the example in the OP is a much more egregious example of cancel culture?

Here's my personal opinion fwiw: I don't really care about pronouns either way. That being said, I find it silly that people get so worked up about them and I feel like it doesn't hurt me to just go along with people's small requests out of politeness, like I would with any number of other things.