Thanks. I really liked the top voted comment there by edw519 [0]
> I have a simple guideline for real life interactions with others that carries over quite well on-line, "Deal with issues; ignore details."
> It's amazing how well this works in person, especially when trying to get something done. My number one question to another is probably, "Is that an issue or a detail?" We can almost always decide together which it is. Then, if it's an issue, we deal with it, and if it's a detail, we move on to the next issue.
> This has also saved me countless hours and aggravation on-line. If I post something and someone disagrees, I quickly decide whether or not it's really an issue and only engage the other if it is. I realize that this is just a judgment call, but I'd estimate about 90% of on-line disagreements are just details. In these cases, I think it's best to simply move on.
There's a reason complaining that HN is "turning into Reddit" is a "semi-noob illusion as old as the hills."
People show up here expecting a community far more erudite , intellectually and technically deep and separated from popular culture than they find, and when disillusion sets in they interpret this as a degradation of the culture.
Also in a culture that eschews humor and common sentiment the way HN often does (in order to not "be like Reddit") hostility, misanthropy and cynicism become intellectual virtue signals.
HN is always where Reddit was about 3 years ago, the criticism that the comments here are turning into Reddit is true and accurate, it's just that Reddit is a moving target.
