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People differ greatly in their appetite for social interactions vs. solitude.

  I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.  We are for
  the most part more lonely when we go abroad among men than when we stay in our
  chambers.

  —Henry David Thoreau
Do you agree with Thoreau? Probably not. But some people do, and there's nothing wrong with that.


I do agree with the first part. I once spent an entire year alone in my apartment, never speaking to anyone and rarely even going outside except to get groceries and go to the family Christmas get-together. It was heaven, but it couldn't last because my money wouldn't last, and so I returned to the job force. My need for money outweighs the draining effect other people have on me.

However, I can't speak to the second part because I don't understand "loneliness", since I've never felt it (at least I don't think I have).


Loneliness can be compared to other withdrawal symptoms. People that are used to and expect a lot of social interaction enter a negative mental state to being without it.

When you don't find the social contact addicting, and do not engage in it much, you never are exposed to the "withdrawal" symptoms.


Thoreau didn't agree with Thoreau. His hermitage was frequently interrupted by visits. Solitude is best when broken occasionally.


I don't think the point of the parent comment contradicts what you are saying.

Arguably those "introverted" folks tend to be the types who long for human beings to understand each other even more than "extroverted" people do.

One of Thoreau's crowning achievements was his work on non violent resistance, which in practice is aimed at precisely the same target as the wishes the parent commenter lists.




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