I don't know you, and you don't know me. I won't hypothesize about your situation - though based on what you've written, you're right, and it was an objectively terrible experience for you, and I'm sorry you had to go through it..

But please don't equate me with someone who treated you badly, based on five paragraphs I banged out this afternoon.

Just because I don't want to invite a casual acquaintance who regularly says things I find vile to my house, doesn't make me an incompassionate villain.