Failures while communicating to the external systems (the kv store and elastic in your example) are usually where this falls down. It's easy to build a system that's consistent ~90% of the time, but if you want to build a system where things like failures during snapshot write or failures during export to elastic are handled properly it starts getting complex (you will need to find ways to recover and retract data, or build smarts into the consumer to query around aborts, or find a way to do a 2PC-esque dance with the external system a la Kafka's transaction support, etc.). Getting to full consistency isn't easy.
This has been my experience too. Instead of going the logical replication route I tend to leverage the transactional outbox to achieve consistency in the application layer instead.
So when I transact data into tables I immediately fetch the latest outbox id.
And then when query from Elasticsearch I first fetch what the last outbox id of the processed data is.
This way I know if the transaction was already processed into Elasticsearch or not. Repeat. Until outbox id of Elasticsearch is equal or higher than the outbox id of the mutation.
This way I don't have to use logical replication, no k/v store and I can just use a script that fetches and processes the latest outbox changes on a loop.
