The statement I take issue with is "[...] this might be one of the last places left on the internet you can ask a question like this without getting dogpiled."

There are lots of places on the internet where asking honest questions about the gay experience is not scary and will not get you flamed. Indeed, the existence of such venues is crucial to the self-discovery of gay people — especially gay people who live in hostile environments, and who may be in great need of a kind confidant.