The signal I am receiving from your businesses is one that would make me only do business with you as a last resort, and then I would lock you in with contracts and spend a lot of time carefully studying everything.
In other words, I'm signalling that the power-dynamics players end up costing too much.
Fair enough. Fortunately, if you don't like me, you're welcome to take my code, and hire someone else to host it for you. There's a whole ecosystem of folks who will do that for you too, and quite a few of them are quite competent. Most of what I do is 100% pure free software.
I used to do business-on-a-handshake too. Nowadays, I don't try to "lock [customers] in with contracts," but I do "spend a lot of time carefully studying everything" to make sure things are guaranteed fair to both sides. I'd advise the same, but until you've been down that road once or twice, I suspect you're right that we might not get along. I was there too at one point.
The business-on-a-handshake crowd is a mixture of honest people and con artists. I was told by more seasoned mentors that good contracts make good partnerships, and now I believe that philosophy.
In other words, I'm signalling that the power-dynamics players end up costing too much.