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I can relate. I was in a similar place. Just know it can get better.

Best thing I ever did was find a therapist that I really clicked with. The accountability and lack of judgement really helped me make progress.

And a bit of progress can be really encouraging.

Support is really important. I wouldn't have made it on my own. My email is in my profile, so please don't hesitate to use it.



Before prescribing something that is "better" you might want to find out if the OP considers their situation worth improving. I can't find any hints on if they are happy or unhappy about it.

I get that you are acting in good faith, but at the same time I get the feeling you consider the OP to be in "a sad place" based on nothing but social norms.


based on biological norms - humans are not wired for that kind of life.


I wouldn't be wired for that kind of life either, but the only thing that allows me to make that statement is my own experience as an individual. Which does not apply to anyone else but me.

50 years ago many people would have told you that homosexuality is not something people are wired for based on biological norms. Luckily, this has changed.

Maybe you have never made the experience yourself, but being told you need to change something about yourself that you are happy with just because it is not "normal" is a pretty terrible thing.


Yeah, I don't want to come across like that.


We threw out what we were wired for 12,000 years ago when we developed agriculture.




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