My time is absolutely valuable and I make it abundantly clear on any phone screens for new roles. I've established my own set hours within the office to accommodate the long commute without impeding my life more than it has to. But the reality of going from 100k -> 60k in a high COL state is quite a change. It's entirely possible, we've been there, but it def requires you to readjust. And as the cost of certain goods keep rising it's not as easy as it was for us 3-5 years ago.