I come to changework (coaching) from a slightly different direction; I'll share what I see as underlying mechanisms in case it helps.
Basically, what we do is based on how we see things. If we can change how we see things, then new actions & results become available.
Then the question just becomes, how can we change how we see things.
If how we see something comes from what we've experienced, then introducing a new experience can have us see it differently.
If how we see something comes from what we think about it, then we can introduce a new thought about it.
The point being to change the internal mental model related to the thing, so that we see it differently, we experience it differently, it occurs for us differently than it did before.
In the case above, step 3 introduced a new thought and internal experience related to the thing, and thus the step between 3 and 4 is, "their internal mental model, connected to the thing, changed".
Again, the mechanism (and the missing step) becomes, "change how we see & experience something, change our internal model relating to it". And then, some possibilities for triggering that include having a new thought about it, having a new experience about it; and various techniques can exist for introducing those experiences or thoughts.
At least, that's how I see it (how it occurs for me, how I've experienced it).
Basically, what we do is based on how we see things. If we can change how we see things, then new actions & results become available.
Then the question just becomes, how can we change how we see things.
If how we see something comes from what we've experienced, then introducing a new experience can have us see it differently.
If how we see something comes from what we think about it, then we can introduce a new thought about it.
The point being to change the internal mental model related to the thing, so that we see it differently, we experience it differently, it occurs for us differently than it did before.
In the case above, step 3 introduced a new thought and internal experience related to the thing, and thus the step between 3 and 4 is, "their internal mental model, connected to the thing, changed".
Again, the mechanism (and the missing step) becomes, "change how we see & experience something, change our internal model relating to it". And then, some possibilities for triggering that include having a new thought about it, having a new experience about it; and various techniques can exist for introducing those experiences or thoughts.
At least, that's how I see it (how it occurs for me, how I've experienced it).