I only kinda know the games/rules in America. In America this is wrong. On the other hand, what do I know. It just seems weird.
I'll tell the world one thing, I found out about my character that I'm not proud of. I found "the one" a few years ago. She was sweet, caring, had brilliant foresight, knew people, wasen't materialistic, smart, put others before herself, etc. I would have died for this woman. She was the one I measured the others by.
I ran into her at an office a few weeks ago. I didn't recognize her. I talked to her for close to an hour. She didn't have those qualities seemingly left.
I drove home, and asked--still asking myself; "Did I project these qualities on her because of her looks--years ago?
I met her just after a severe life crisis. She was a coworker. Could I have projected these qualities on her because she was so stunning? I'm still questioning myself. I really didn't think I was that shallow. I actually, didn't think, I was shallow in the slightest, but maybe I am?
It the simple "halo effect", where good looking/attractive people are attributed other positive qualities that they don't really posses. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect
Plus, given some limited information about a person, we tend to fill it with "wishful thinking" and assign all kind of positive attributes that don't really exists.
On street parlance this is called "putting the pussy on a pedestal". This is a very common thing that most men (and/or women) do when they are young.
I'll tell the world one thing, I found out about my character that I'm not proud of. I found "the one" a few years ago. She was sweet, caring, had brilliant foresight, knew people, wasen't materialistic, smart, put others before herself, etc. I would have died for this woman. She was the one I measured the others by.
I ran into her at an office a few weeks ago. I didn't recognize her. I talked to her for close to an hour. She didn't have those qualities seemingly left.
I drove home, and asked--still asking myself; "Did I project these qualities on her because of her looks--years ago?
I met her just after a severe life crisis. She was a coworker. Could I have projected these qualities on her because she was so stunning? I'm still questioning myself. I really didn't think I was that shallow. I actually, didn't think, I was shallow in the slightest, but maybe I am?