I played around with my wordpress install. It looks like if a post is ever "published", the ?p=id url will always forward to the permalink url regardless of the post status being changed to "draft" or "pending review". Edge case for sure, but interesting to know.

That's not an edge case. It's a bona fide bug. Back when pretty URL wasn't a thing yet the logic behind the controller should never redirects you to an hidden/draft post.

What is the OP's point? That people don't pay attention to the gender of the writer? If someone did a dedicated study about the last 6 months of top Hacker News and top r/programming articles what percentage do we think would be male authors? I would set the over-under at 95%. (Please don't point out that those audiences are sexist because the OP just showed that the readers don't pay attention to the gender of authors.)

For the record I think there is sexism in tech but it mostly starts in jr high and high school - at least in the US.